More Signs of an Orphan

Orphans live with comparisons. Their image of themselves is low so they see others as more blessed, more loved - getting all the breaks.
A son/daughter revels in being affirmed and valued and precious to their Father. So they don't need to compare. They are content, and know their loving Daddy will not withhold any good thing from them. They know they are loved even when they fail.

Orpans seek comfort in counterfeit affections, addictions, cmpulsions, escapism, busyness, accomplishments and hyper-religious activity...believing the busier they are the happier they are.
Sons/daughters find true comfort in resting the Father's presence and love. They can be alone, and be quiet easily. Nothing else compares to this quiet resting in his love.

Orphans often relate to peers through competition, rivalry or jealousy. They cannot genuinely rejoice of the success or advancement of another because they are not secure in themselves.
Sons/daughters value others and sincerely rejoice in their successes. They honour them, seeking unity and humility.

Orphans often resort to accusation and exposure of others faults while denying or trying to hide their own. They don't feel good about themselves, so attempt to make others look worse and so build themselves up. They evidence criticalness, control, possessiveness or lack of respect and honour.
Sons/daughters seek in love to 'cover' others with faults and sins. This is not hiding, but protecting them from humiliation and destructive exposure as this is resolved because they love the person and want them restored.

Orphans struggle with authority figures, usually because they have been wounded by them. They feel vulnerable and are suspicious and distrustful of any authority but their own. They feel that supporting the goals of another is allowing themselves to be used.
Daughters/sons feel relaxed and confident and open and teachable towards authority figures. They are not a threat. The past hurts have been healed by their Abba, and they are secure in him as their ultimate authority.

Orphans have difficulty receiving correction. They take it as a personal offense or a rejection. They justify themselves, focus on the faults of others, blame others, get angry and accuse and shut their spirits off to those trying to help them.
Sons/daughters are able to say "I am sorry, I was wrong" easily. They want to be changed, and receive correction without fear, seeing it as valuable in their maturing process. They are sad they have "offended love" and not acted lovingly.

Orphans have difficulty expressing love to those they disapprove of. They avoid them. Unconditional love is foreign to them.
For daughters/sons who are drawing on Abba's love daily, they want to give it way to all they meet. They are open, transparent and affectionate, seeking how they can meet the needs of others. They feel compassion or sadness for others, not disapproval.

Orphans live life as if they don't have a home. They feel as if they are away from safe harbour and don't know how to get back. Nothing satisfies, nothing feels permanent, nowhere feels like home.
Sons/daughters are at rest and at peace in the safe harbour of their Father's love. They feel at home with Daddy. Whatever the storms of life, they have a safe place in his love.

(Highly recommend 'Spiritual Slavery to Spiritual Sons' by Jack Frost
Also his first book 'Experiencing Father's Embrace'
They are revolutionary!)